Sex Therapy | Fair Lawn, NJ
“Is It Just Me?”
Sex therapy isn’t just for people in crisis—it’s for anyone feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure about sex, intimacy, or identity.
Maybe you’re dealing with low desire, performance anxiety, shame, or painful patterns in your relationship. Maybe you’re questioning your sexual identity or wondering why sex feels like something to avoid, not enjoy.
If you’re asking yourself things like:
Why don’t I want sex anymore?
Why do I feel ashamed afterward?
Why can’t I talk to my partner about what I need?
You’re not alone—and you’re in the right place.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor and certified Sex Therapist, I offer a nonjudgmental space to explore your concerns with curiosity and care. Together, we’ll work to uncover what’s beneath the struggle and build toward connection, safety, and self-trust.
Sex therapy is about more than fixing—it’s about finding your way back to wholeness.
What is Sex Therapy?
Sex therapy is a supportive space to explore intimacy, desire, identity, and connection—without shame or judgment. Whether you're navigating mismatched libidos, exploring kink or BDSM, deepening connection in a polyamorous relationship, or healing from past experiences, sex therapy helps you understand your needs and communicate them with clarity and confidence. My approach is inclusive, trauma-informed, and affirming of all relationship structures and sexual expressions, grounded in the belief that pleasure, safety, and agency belong to everyone.
In sex therapy, we might talk about things like:
Low or mismatched desire
Pain during sex or difficulties with arousal
Body image and sexual confidence
Recovering from past sexual trauma
Navigating non-monogamy, kink, or BDSM dynamics
Communication and emotional intimacy in your sexual relationship
You’re not the only one…
Sexual concerns are incredibly common, but they’re often kept quiet, which can make you feel like you’re the only one going through it. You're not.
Low desire, mismatched libido, performance anxiety, shame around sex or the body, difficulty with arousal, or feeling emotionally disconnected during intimacy—these are issues I see in my therapy practice every day. They’re deeply human, and they often come with layers of emotional pain, self-doubt, or fear of being judged.
If you're struggling with sex, you're not broken. You're not alone. And you're not beyond help.
As a sex therapist, I’ve supported many people who felt confused, isolated, or ashamed—people just like you. Together, we’ll unpack the “why” with care and curiosity, and work toward healing, connection, and confidence. Whatever you’re carrying, you don’t have to carry it alone anymore.
Is Sex Therapy Right for You?
Sex therapy might be “for you” if any of the following issues interfere with your relationship and the quality of your life:
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Experiencing anxiety about sexual activity and sexual performance
Anxiety about body image, penis size
Fear of sex
Sexual shame, trauma, avoidance
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Being unable to get aroused or orgasm during sex for men and women
Low libido or mismatched sex drives in couples
Erectile dysfunction
Delayed or premature ejaculation
Pain during sex (e.g., vaginismus)
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Lack of communication about sex and intimacy Issues related to gender identity or sexual orientation
Emotional and relationship issues stemming from sexual difficulties
Healing from infidelity
Coping with a sexually transmitted illness (STI)
Exploring “opening'“ your relationship
Exploring kink/BDSM
“I Just Want to Feel Normal Again”
Sex therapy can be a powerful step toward healing, clarity, and reconnection—with yourself, your body, and your relationships.
You might come in feeling anxious, ashamed, or unsure. That’s okay. Therapy gives you space to slow down, speak honestly, and begin untangling the experiences and beliefs that have shaped your relationship to sex and intimacy.
What You Can Expect from Therapy:
Deep listening, thoughtful questions, and respectful guidance
Collaborative goals that honor your pace, comfort, and values
Relief in knowing you’re not alone and you don’t have to “fix” this by yourself
Treatment Approaches I Use:
I draw from evidence-based and integrative modalities that support both insight and action:
Sex therapy and sexual health education to demystify concerns and reduce shame
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to strengthen relational bonds and increase intimacy
Mindfulness and somatic approaches to reconnect with the body and reduce anxiety
Neurodivergence-affirming care to tailor therapy to your unique wiring and needs
Trauma-informed work to gently explore how past experiences may be influencing the present
Whether you’re navigating desire discrepancies, healing from sexual pain, exploring identity, or simply trying to understand why sex feels so hard, therapy can help you move toward clarity, connection, and confidence.
You don’t need to have it all figured out to begin. You just have to be willing to start.
“I’m Not Sure If I’m Ready for Sex Therapy…”
It’s completely normal to feel unsure about reaching out for sex therapy. In fact, most people do.
You might be thinking:
“Is my issue even serious enough to see a therapist?”
“What if talking about sex is too awkward or uncomfortable?”
“Won’t I be judged?”
“What if my partner doesn’t want to come with me?”
“I should be able to figure this out on my own.”
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many of my clients come in feeling nervous, embarrassed, or even ashamed. You’ve likely carried these questions and fears quietly for a long time. That takes a toll.
Here’s what I want you to know:
You don’t have to be in crisis to benefit from sex therapy.
You set the pace. You never have to talk about anything before you’re ready.
You won’t be judged—this is a space for honesty, curiosity, and respect.
Therapy can still be effective even if you come alone.
Struggling with sex, desire, or intimacy doesn’t make you broken—it makes you human.
Starting therapy is an act of courage, not a sign of failure. If part of you is curious but unsure, that’s a valid place to be. I’m here to meet you there—with compassion, not pressure.
You don’t have to be “ready.” You just have to be willing to take one small step.
You Deserve a Relationship with Sex That Feels Safe, Honest, and Empowering
Change is possible—and it starts with one honest conversation. Whether you're struggling with desire, shame, communication, or disconnection, you don't have to face it alone. Therapy can help you feel more connected to yourself and your relationships.
Reach out today to take the first step toward healing.
