Couples & Sex Therapy in Fair Lawn, NJ
Therapy for couples and individuals who want more from their relationships, their intimacy, and their lives.
I help adults and couples navigate conflict, communication, infidelity, mismatched desire, sexual concerns, ADHD and neurodivergence, parenting challenges, and major life transitions.
My approach is warm, practical, strengths-based, and non-pathologizing—with specialized training in couples and sex therapy and more than 25 years of experience in counseling.
You want to feel…
Seen…Accepted…Valued for who you are…
You know that when you do, it’s easier to trust your instincts, quiet the self-doubt, and build relationships where you don’t have to mask or explain yourself over and over.
But instead…
You feel misunderstood, like your brain is “too much” or “not enough.” You might be overwhelmed by constant thoughts, sensory overload, or the pressure to keep up in a world that isn’t built for the way you process. Guilt, burnout, and the weight of trying to please others can leave you feeling disconnected from your partner, your work, and even yourself.
And you don’t want a therapist who just nods and agrees.
You need someone who gets the ADHD and neurodiverse experience — who can gently challenge you, help you untangle the shame, and support you in accepting and honoring the way your brain really works.
What Brings People to Therapy:
-
When you keep having the same argument, feel emotionally disconnected, or aren't sure how to find your way back to each other.
-
Mismatched desire, loss of desire, sexual difficulties, intimacy after major life changes, and couples who love each other but aren't connecting sexually.
-
Support for couples trying to understand what happened, rebuild trust, and determine what comes next after an affair.
-
When ADHD, autism, or other forms of neurodivergence affect communication, emotional regulation, responsibilities, parenting, sex, or connection.
-
Support for parents navigating changing family roles, parenting stress, special education, and the complexities of raising children with different needs.
-
Therapy when the life you expected—or the relationship you expected—starts to look different than you imagined.
MEET THE THERAPIST
Hi, I’m Mati.
For over twenty years, I’ve supported people who move through the world with intensity — the deep thinkers, the sensitive observers, the ones whose minds never stop connecting dots. Many of them have been told they’re “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “too scattered,” and start to believe something is wrong with them.
Here’s what I know: there’s nothing wrong with you or the way your brain works. You don’t need to be less - you need ways to work with your wiring instead of fighting against it.
My work focuses on what’s underneath the surface — the patterns and protective strategies your nervous system learned long ago to keep you safe. These patterns still shape how you think, feel, connect, and parent today. Many of my clients come in navigating emotional overwhelm, rejection sensitivity, executive functioning struggles, sexual disconnection, or the identity shifts that come with parenting while neurodivergent.
In therapy, I bring structure that supports flexibility, creativity that honors complexity, and deep attunement to how your mind and body process the world. This is work for people whose brains don’t fit neatly into boxes - people who’ve lived in overdrive and are ready to feel more regulated, connected, and at home in themselves and their relationships.
Why Work With Me?Choosing a therapist is personal. You want someone with the training to help—and someone you actually feel comfortable talking to.
I bring more than 25 years of counseling experience along with specialized training and a background that gives me a somewhat different perspective on relationships, sexuality, ADHD, and neurodivergence.
My background includes:
Licensed Professional Counselor
Doctorate in Special Education
Advanced training in couples therapy
Gottman Method training
Advanced training in sex therapy and sexuality
Extensive experience working with ADHD and neurodivergence
More than 25 years in counseling and education
Neurodiversity-affirming, LGBTQ+ affirming, and culturally responsive practice
AASECT certified sex therapist
My goal isn't to tell you what you should do. It's to help you understand what's happening, identify what matters to you, and figure out what comes next.
My Services
SEX THERAPY
COUPLES COUNSELING
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
ADHD THERAPY
PARENTING
NEURODIVERGENT COUPLES COUNSELING
Our Work Together
Map What’s Underneath
We’ll slow things down and get curious together about what’s really going on - in your body, your feelings, and your relationships. Often the ways we learned to cope in the past still show up today, shaping how we connect, love, and parent. In therapy, we’ll gently uncover these patterns so you can create more freedom, balance, and closeness in your life.
Work With (Not Against) Your Depth
This isn’t about fixing or minimizing who you are - it’s about helping your depth feel like a strength instead of a burden. We’ll build awareness and practical tools that honor your sensitivity, insight, and complexity. Whether we’re working through relationship challenges, sexual dynamics, or the ways you care for others (and yourself), we’ll focus on creating space for you to thrive.
Practice New Ways of Relating
Lasting change happens through experience, not just insight. In this phase, we gently experiment with new ways of relating - to yourself, your partner, your children, and your body. You’ll begin to notice when old patterns are running the show and practice responding with more choice, clarity, and connection.
When ADHD or Neurodivergence Affects a Relationship
ADHD and neurodivergence can affect communication, emotional regulation, household responsibilities, parenting, sexuality, and the way partners experience one another. Sometimes the problem isn't a lack of love—it is that two people are operating from very different expectations, needs, and ways of processing the world.
I offer neurodiversity-affirming therapy for individuals and couples who want to understand those differences without blaming or pathologizing either partner.
And… Meet Louie!
Therapy isn’t just about talk — sometimes it involves a little more…
Louie, my certified therapy dog, joins many sessions and helps clients feel grounded, comforted, and safe. His presence is especially helpful during moments of emotional vulnerability or anxiety.
You weren’t made to merely endure.
Together, we can carve out space for breath, for healing, and for the life you deserve.
Not Sure Where to Start?
You don't have to know exactly what kind of therapy you need before reaching out.
Whether you're struggling with your relationship, your sex life, an affair, ADHD or neurodivergence, parenting, or a major life transition, we can use a free 15-minute consultation to talk about what's going on and whether working together makes sense.
